Sermon for Sept. 10, 2023, Pentecost 15A, Central Presbyterian Church, Fort Smith, AR
Matthew 18:15—20
“If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one. But if you are not listened to, take one or two others along with you, so that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If the member refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if the offender refuses to listen even to the church, let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax-collector. Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. Again, truly I tell you, if two of you agree on earth about anything you ask, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.”
The text we read from Matthew’s gospel reflects a time in Matthew’s young Christian community as they tried to work out life together. To read this in our context we will need to clear out some weeds that we will get to in a minute. But let us start with this: Communities are made up of people, and people will never fail to step on each other’s toes, offend each other, try to control each other, and hurt each other.
People are people; we are human, and we all have both positive characteristics and dark sides, good days, and bad days.
So, how should a community handle the behaviors that come from those dark sides on those bad days? Well, a principle that they knew from the Jewish Law in the Hebrew Bible was that you never convict a person on the basis of a single testimony (Dut. 19:15).
Whenever you hear a story from one person about another, always remember that you have heard one side of the story, and every story has more than one side. So, be slow to join accusations.
The whole point is to try to work it out. Don’t rush to judgment. Try to get to a resolution, to reconciliation. In other words, keep your ego in check.
The goal is not punishment, but the peace that comes from honesty. In order for this to work, someone is going to have to back down. Someone is going to have to admit fault. Someone is going to have to own what they did, stop making excuses for it, and apologize.
Then, the other one is going to have to accept the apology and move on. Otherwise, what would be the point of talking about it?
Ego Work
Both admitting fault and forgiving require ego work. What does that mean? We all have egos, meaning our sense of who we are and what we are entitled to.
We all think everyone in the world owes us respect. We all want to be taken seriously.
We all think our own perspective is right.
We all want everyone else to give us the benefit of the doubt, to assume that we had perfect motives, and did our best, even when we didn’t.
All those things are what we call ego. The self, or the ego, is that part of us that takes offense, and holds grudges. The ego is that part of ourselves that gets its feelings hurt when we don’t get what we think we are entitled to.
Now, this is tricky for two reasons. We believe that Jesus taught us to live in such a way that we show respect to everyone, so, in that sense, everyone deserves respect. That is what we extend to others. But that is not what we are to demand for ourselves in the context of our community.
The second way this teaching is tricky is that we are talking about life together in community. We are not talking about larger social issues. It is right for oppressed groups to demand justice and to be treated with respect. But inside the community, we are to turn the other cheek, and forgive “seventy times seven times.”
Clearing Matthew’s Weeds
Now, I mentioned that there were weeds that needed to be cleared away from this text.
The following advice, I believe, is not a memory of the historical Jesus, but an expansion on that memory from Matthew’s community. It is the advice about what to do if negotiations fail and the one at fault does not own it, back down, admit it, and apologize. Matthew says,
“if the offender refuses to listen even to the church, let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax-collector.”
Scholars do not believe the historical Jesus said that, because of the way he treated Gentiles and tax-collectors. In fact, Matthew’s gospel tells us that the disciple named Mathew was himself, a tax collector, and also that Jesus accepted him, and that he was compassionate to Gentiles.
The Community Gathered in Jesus’ Name
But the final statement in this teaching is the key. Matthew says Jesus said:
“where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.”
Two or three is the smallest community you can imagine, but it is sufficient.
When we gather, we gather in the name of Jesus. That means that Jesus is the basis for our community. The life and teachings of Jesus show us the way to live, including how to live together in community.
We gather to remember Jesus and to let his words shape our lives. What we see, when we look at Jesus, is a person who demonstrated love at every turn.
He loved his disciples, even when they failed.
He loved people whom he called “lost,” whom other people wrote off as “sinners.”
He loved people whom other people neglected, disrespected, or despised: sick people, Samaritan people, women, Gentile people, poor people, even children, which was counter-cultural at that time.
Jesus was able to love because he had his ego under control. He did not get offended, even when he was being challenged. He did not need to be first, in fact, our tradition tells us that he washed the feet of his disciples; something only servants did.
Jesus practiced the kind of spiritual practices, like meditation, or contemplation, that put his own ego in place. The community that gathers in his name seeks to do the same.
Liberation from Enslavement to Ego
This is one of the forms of liberation we talk about: we can be liberated from slavery to ego when we practice the Jesus way of living.
We can be freed from the necessity of protecting our pride and defending our right-ness.
We can be unshackled from the need to have the last word, be recognized, and be taken seriously by everyone.
That is what Jesus saves us from, if we let him.
The sign we wear to the world is the sign that Jesus said would distinguish us as his followers: love.
I cannot think of a time when we have needed this more than today. Our country is so divided; there is so much hostility, anger, arrogance, and derision — we all know it. Let us not be part of it! Let us be the solution.
Let us be a community that models the Jesus-way of love; love for each other, and love for our enemies.
All of our work for justice, equity, and inclusion is motivated, not by resentment and bitterness, but by love. Even when we have to confront systems of injustice and repression, we do it in love. Even when threatened, we respond with love.
We keep doing the ego-work, keep our spiritual disciplines alive, we keep meditating, so that we can pray for those who oppose us:
“may they be happy, may they be well, may they be filled with kindness and peace.”
As our scriptural wisdom tradition teaches,
“love covers a multitude of sins.”
Romans 12